A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Proverbs 31:5
It is very common for girls, who once have graduated high school and maybe college, they desire to get married. They search for some man who will love them and want them.
In order to be ready for that, many will take care of their physical appearances. They will put on the best makeup, wear the best jewelry and stay in good shape. However, their character does not improve.
Often their character stays all about self and making self look good, rather than building others up. Finding one that is about helping and building others up is a rare find.
Solomon describes a wife of noble character as being of worth more than rubies.
Noble character is something that is difficult to find in many people, both men and women. This is a character that is serving, loving, and hard working. It is one about building others up, rather than focusing on self.
While Solomon is specifically talking about a wife being of a noble character, men can take this advice also. This describes the person who is a follower of Jesus. Jesus used wisdom, worked hard, provided food, helped the poor and needy, opened His arms to everyone, showed no fear, and clothes His followers.
Every believer needs to be a person of noble character as Jesus is. The noble character is a description of love for others. God is love and believers are to be like God–love. This goes against the grain of the world, which is all about self, not love.
In marriage and in life, if everyone is showing God’s love, being a person of noble character, there will be less fights and arguments. Hurting others will drop and more lives will be changed for God.
Take a moment to determine what type of character you are. Do you portray a character that is like that of the world—selfish? Or do you represent the noble character of Jesus—loving others?
Allow God to work on your character to make you more like Jesus. Learn to love others and put them first over yourself and second only to God. Work hard and be generous to others. Be willing to share the gospel message to all you meet. Be quick to forgive and extend mercy. Be gracious and thankful.
What type of character are you being today?
I pray today that you will allow God to change your character to that of Jesus; that you will love others as God loves you and them; that you will build others up in Christ Jesus; and that God will fill you with His grace and mercy towards others.
Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes. Proverbs 6:25
There are women in this world who are very beautiful physically, but are very dark spiritually. They live their lives to flirt with other men. They are never satisfied with just one man, but want a piece of each one.
There are also men, who look handsome physically, but their character is bad. Just like some women, they desire to be physically with other women, no matter who the person is.
Many people who see someone who looks great will begin to lust after that person. They desire to be with that person, whom they don’t even know, because of how that person looks or acts.
Solomon gives a strong warning for a person not to lust after a woman who is straying and lives for the wrong reasons.
Physically beauty is only skin deep. Many see it and desire the physical side of another person, disregarding the character and spiritual side of a person. This leads them into fornication and adultery, very quickly.
Some may only lust after another person and never do the act, but Jesus linked it as the same when even lusting in the heart as the actual action.
Lust for a person is seen every where a person looks. It is pushed as acceptable and common. It does not matter if a person is married or not.
There are many believers who get caught up in the lie that the other person might be better. Some will choose to act upon their thoughts, while many will just stay in the stage of lusting after someone.
While it is true that some men or women will look great, a believer must quickly turn his eyes away and move on. He must never allow lust to reign in his heart, turning him away from God.
Regardless of whether you are single or married, happy or not with your situation, you must guard your eyes. Do not allow yourself to be captured by the physical characteristics of another person.
God has set up the pattern of being with another person and how it is supposed to be. Follow His plan. His plan will bring contentment and joy. Walking the way of the world in lust will only bring about death and destruction.
Seeing someone cannot be helped, but what you do with your thoughts can. Focus your thoughts on God, not people.
I pray today that you will see people as God sees them; that you will know the true love of God for others; that God will help you guide your eyes and heart; and that God will help you to not lust after another person outside of marriage.