Proverbs 31:5 A Noble Character

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A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Proverbs 31:5 

It is very common for girls, who once have graduated high school and maybe college, they desire to get married. They search for some man who will love them and want them.

In order to be ready for that, many will take care of their physical appearances. They will put on the best makeup, wear the best jewelry and stay in good shape. However, their character does not improve.

Often their character stays all about self and making self look good, rather than building others up. Finding one that is about helping and building others up is a rare find.

Solomon describes a wife of noble character as being of worth more than rubies.

Noble character is something that is difficult to find in many people, both men and women. This is a character that is serving, loving, and hard working. It is one about building others up, rather than focusing on self.

While Solomon is specifically talking about a wife being of a noble character, men can take this advice also. This describes the person who is a follower of Jesus. Jesus used wisdom, worked hard, provided food, helped the poor and needy, opened His arms to everyone, showed no fear, and clothes His followers.

Every believer needs to be a person of noble character as Jesus is. The noble character is a description of love for others. God is love and believers are to be like God–love. This goes against the grain of the world, which is all about self, not love.

In marriage and in life, if everyone is showing God’s love, being a person of noble character, there will be less fights and arguments. Hurting others will drop and more lives will be changed for God.

Take a moment to determine what type of character you are. Do you portray a character that is like that of the world—selfish? Or do you represent the noble  character of Jesus—loving others?

Allow God to work on your character to make you more like Jesus. Learn to love others and put them first over yourself and second only to God. Work hard and be generous to others. Be willing to share the gospel message to all you meet. Be quick to forgive and extend mercy. Be gracious and thankful.

What type of character are you being today?

I pray today that you will allow God to change your character to that of Jesus; that you will love others as God loves you and them; that you will build others up in Christ Jesus; and that God will fill you with His grace and mercy towards others. 

Proverbs 6:25 Wandering Eyes

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Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes. Proverbs 6:25 

There are women in this world who are very beautiful physically, but are very dark spiritually. They live their lives to flirt with other men. They are never satisfied with just one man, but want a piece of each one.

There are also men, who look handsome physically, but their character is bad. Just like some women, they desire to be physically with other women, no matter who the person is.

Many people who see someone who looks great will begin to lust after that person. They desire to be with that person, whom they don’t even know, because of how that person looks or acts.

Solomon gives a strong warning for a person not to lust after a woman who is straying and lives for the wrong reasons.

Physically beauty is only skin deep. Many see it and desire the physical side of another person, disregarding the character and spiritual side of a person. This leads them into fornication and adultery, very quickly.

Some may only lust after another person and never do the act, but Jesus linked it as the same when even lusting in the heart as the actual action.

Lust for a person is seen every where a person looks. It is pushed as acceptable and common. It does not matter if a person is married or not.

There are many believers who get caught up in the lie that the other person might be better. Some will choose to act upon their thoughts, while many will just stay in the stage of lusting after someone.

While it is true that some men or women will look great, a believer must quickly turn his eyes away and move on. He must never allow lust to reign in his heart, turning him away from God.

Regardless of whether you are single or married, happy or not with your situation, you must guard your eyes. Do not allow yourself to be captured by the physical characteristics of another person.

God has set up the pattern of being with another person and how it is supposed to be. Follow His plan. His plan will bring contentment and joy. Walking the way of the world in lust will only bring about death and destruction.

Seeing someone cannot be helped, but what you do with your thoughts can. Focus your thoughts on God, not people.

I pray today that you will see people as God sees them; that you will know the true love of God for others; that God will help you guide your eyes and heart; and that God will help you to not lust after another person outside of marriage.

Going To Church?

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Over the last few years I have had several friends who have chosen to no longer go to church, yet, remain a believer. The reasons are varied. Some because of being hurt by those in the church, others because of the way the church looks and acts.

Jerrad Lopes, founder of the national organization, Dad Tired, does a weekly podcast talking about different issues men may have in their lives. Jerrad encourages men to be dads who follow after God and put Him first in their families. In this podcast he addresses the issue of whether a  family really needs to go to church or not. He does not say it is wrong to not go to church, but does suggest that anyone considering not going to church should ask themselves some very good questions.

Please take the time to listen to this podcast, whether you go to church or not, and whether you are considering not going to church or not. It was a real eye-opener to the issue.

Does our family really need to go to church?

1 Corinthians 11:11 No One Is Independent

 

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Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman. 1 Corinthians 11:11

Paul had been talking about the place of men and women in Christ. It is common for men to remember the statement Paul made that men are under Christ and women are under men.

People all over the world, both men and women, often feel that they do not need the other in their life. For many years, there are groups of women striving to be independent of men, and men trying to be independent of women.

One group feels superior to the other and don’t really need each other. While it may be or may not be true that both can do things equally well, it is not true that they do not need each other. There will always be things that a woman can do that a man cannot do, as well as there will be things that a man can do that a woman cannot do. The very minimum thing that can be seen in the need of each other is that woman came from man, but man is born from a woman.

When God created Eve, He made her to be a helpmate to Adam. This shows that man needed the woman.

While the majority of people who feel the need of independence from each other are people outside the church, there are also many inside the church that feel the same way. Some will try to do things without the other or will cut down the work of the other.

Men and women who are believers need to learn that they can help each other be the best that they can be. They both can learn from each other. A woman will have insights into some things that the man cannot see and the same for a man will have insights into some things that the woman cannot see. God uses both to build each other up in Jesus.

Take a look at the value of men or women in your life. Regardless of which one you are, you need the other. The other can bring valuable insight and help into your life. Each can help you be built up in Christ in different ways and areas of your life.

If you are a man, you need a woman in your life. If you are woman, you need a man in your life.

I pray today that Jesus will be the head of your life; that you will know the value of others in your life; that you will be a support and builder with Christ of others in your life; and that you will work with others to build the kingdom of Jesus. 

Ephesians 5:25 For The Husbands

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” Ephesians 5:25

Many people, especially the men, love to remind people of Ephesians 5:22, that wives are to submit to their husbands. Many women do not like that verse. People like to forget about today’s verse just a few verses further. It is a command to the husband.

Yes, husbands are supposed to be the head of the household. They are over their wife. Alongside that, however, they are supposed to do that with the same love that Jesus had for the church.

What kind of love did Jesus have? It was a self-sacrificing love. When people hated Him and wanted to kill Him, He showed His love by dying for them. Even as the people killed Jesus on the cross, He was asking God the Father to forgive them. Jesus was willing to do whatever it took to save people from their sins.

Husbands, you are supposed to have this same type of love for your wife. Are you willing to sacrifice your time, money, work, pleasures, relaxation and anything else for your wife?

There are many husbands who come home from a hard day at work demanding a meal on the table when they walk in the door. Immediately after the meal they are sitting down watching the latest sports game on television, or they are taking off to go do some fishing, or be with other men. They are not willing to do something for their wife or what she desires.

As the husband you are supposed to be looking out for the best interest of your wife. You are supposed to be building her up in Jesus. If you are taking the time to please yourself, will you build her up? If you are demanding that she does everything as you sit and relax, will that build her up?

Spend some time on your wife today. Take notice of what she needs. Give her a break from cleaning, taking care of the children, cooking, or what ever other things she does. Pamper her with love, the same love Jesus had for you. Be the real man Jesus was, not a demanding, greedy, tyrant the men of the world are.

I pray today that you will know how to show love to your wife as Jesus did; that you will be sacrifice yourself for your wife; that you will know the love Jesus has shown you; and that your marriage will be strong with Jesus at the center of it.