Proverbs 26:28 Hate And Destruction In Speaking

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A lying tongue hates those it hurts, and a flattering mouth works ruin. Proverbs 26:28 

Words can do a lot. They can be used to build up or they can be used to destroy. The two major common ways that speaking can hurt and destroy people is with telling lies and flattering. Both of these go hand in hand and relatively the same.

There are many people who think that a “little white” lie is not really hurting anyone and does no real harm. Yet a lie is a lie. It is deceiving someone else into thinking something that is not true. It breaks the trust of those that hear it. Thus to speak a lie to someone is to hate them.

Flattering is telling lies to make a person feel better about himself. It often causes a person to think that they are better than what they really are. When this occurs, there is often a downfall later. The person goes about thinking greater of himself until someone else brings out the truth and crushes him.

In Proverbs it points out that a lying tongue hates others and flattering a person brings about destruction and ruin.

God is a God of love and His people are to be the same. Telling lies about or to someone or flattering someone is not showing that love. It is showing hatred.

These types of actions can often be found in the church among believers. Many believers will tell lies that they do not struggle with some type of sin, trying to look better. Others will also flatter someone to put them on a pedestal making them appear much greater than they are, rather than speaking full truth.

Jesus only spoke truth and then it was always done in love. Every believer is to speak in the same way. Jesus built people up with truth, not flattering lies.

Every day you will have opportunities to speak to others. You will have a choice as to whether to speak the truth or tell a lie. You will have the opportunity to build a person up in love or with flattering lies.

Allow God to guide your words to build them up in the true love of Jesus. There will be times of correction and there will be times of admonishment. However all of it is to be done in His love.

Are your words showing love or hate? Are your words building up or destroying others?

I pray today that God will give you the words to speak; that you will only speak as Jesus spoke; that God will fill you with His love for others; and that you will build others up in Jesus and not tear them down.

Proverbs 21:23 Guarding Your Mouth

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Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23 

Freedom to speak is the desire and love of many people. In some places people are allowed to speak freely in whatever way they desire, while in other places people are severely restricted on what they can talk about.

The freedom to speak freely is a double-edge sword. It can be good to be able to say what is needed without fear of being reprimanded. However, many times people talk too much, too fast. Things are often said that only bring about trouble.

Speaking today has become even easier than in the past. Not only can a person be heard by those physically near by, but he can also be heard by millions around the world using online social media. This can also happen within just a few seconds, rather than days or months.

Solomon gives advice to a person who speaks. He should guard his mouth with what he says. This prevents tragedy from occurring.

It is common to hear a person suddenly say something in the heat of the moment that is hateful or harmful to himself or to others. Responses to online comments are often sharp and painful.

Many are having their dreams destroyed because of something that was stated online years before. They did not put a guard over their mouths and are now paying for it. Often society does not care if the person ever changed or not, it is just that it was said and was wrong.

Believers are also known for saying things quickly in the heat of the moment, casting harsh judgement before hearing the full story. Instead of being slow to speak and quick to listen, they are slow to listen and quick to speak in judgement of others.

Speaking like this is often selfish and brings about trouble and hatred with no love. Believers should always speak out of love and truth.

Every day you will have hundreds of opportunities to speak. Before you speak, slow down and consider what you will say, put a guard over your mouth.

Ask yourself if what you are going to say is going to build up or destroy, it is going to be the truth or a lie.

Once you speak, your words are out there and cannot be returned. However, they will return to reward you or destroy you.

Are you speaking the words of God or of self? Put a guard over your words and speak His words.

I pray today that God will help you guard your mouth; that you will only speak the words of truth and love; that you will be led by God’s Holy Spirit in what you say; and that your words will point people to God rather than destroy them.

Psalm 94:18 When You Are Slipping

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When I said, “My foot is slipping,” your unfailing love, Lord, supported me. Psalm 94:18 

In this world people will make mistakes and fall. They will fail and do things wrong, hurting others and themselves. No one is immune to slipping and making a mistake, regardless of who one is or how long one has lived.

When a person makes a mistake, the world is very quick to condemn and judge the person. Often they are thrown out and rejected because of the mistake.

Many bosses are quick to judge a worker that makes a mistake. The more mistakes made, the faster the boss is to remove the worker. The patience for mistakes is not very high for most people. This also includes individuals on themselves.

The psalmist admits that at times he is slipping. At those times he cries out to God and God’s perfect, unfailing love supports him.

Along with everyone in this world, believers will also slip up and make mistakes. They will choose to step into sin for some selfish reason. They will bend under the pressure to follow a way of sin, rather than stay on the path with God.

Believers who are walking with God, will know that they are being tempted and are beginning to slip on that slippery slope into sin. Many will strive to fight it on their own, and will often fail. However, calling out to God can give the person strength to overcome it. God will not condemn because he is beginning to slip up, but will pick him up to restore him

If the person does not overcome it, God’s love is still there to support him and pick him back up. God is not waiting to condemn, but to forgive, love and restore.

You may be at different points on these slippery slopes in life. You may be walking with no fear of slipping at the moment. Or you may be at the beginning stages of slipping into doing something wrong. Or you may have already slipped into sin.

Regardless of where you are, call out to God. He is waiting to hear from you and support you. He wants to life you up and hold you close to Him, restoring you to what you are to be in Jesus.

Instead of condemning yourself, or giving up, allow God to love you and support you. His love is great enough to overcome any slip.

I pray today that you will know the love of God; that you will know that God cares for you; that you will seek God’s help in every situation; and that you will know God wants to restore you and build you up to be like Jesus. 

Psalm 93:5 Solid Commands

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Your statutes, Lord stand firm; holiness adorns your house for endless days. Psalm 93:5

Every nation, every city and village has a set of rules to help govern their people. The set of rules are guided by how they want the people to live and act within their boundaries.

Throughout time many of the rules that a nation, or some other place has, change. They change because people change and want something different. Rules change because people change. No one is able to stay exactly the same all the time.

It is very common today to see groups of people fighting over what rule should be in place, removed or changed. Rules are often made by the majority or those who are in power, so are subject to feelings, rather than eternal truth.

In this psalm it is written that God’s statutes, rules are firm. These statutes are done with holiness for all eternity, never ending.

God is a never changing God. He is the same today, yesterday and forever. Since He never changes He is able to lay down the perfect law or commands for men to follow.

Every command that God gives is given out of perfect love. They are given with the best interest of man in mind. Since they are given this way they are solid and stand firm forever. There is no changing of the laws of God as there are with the laws of man.

Many people despise laws and the commands of God. They see them as limiting and punishing. Yet, God’s laws are in place to build a person up and make him more like Jesus, not to destroy, kill and punish.

When one follows God’s laws, he is able to walk in peace and harmony. He is able to know a true life of joy and love.

Take time to look into the laws and commands of God. Notice that each one is set there to build you up and help you live your life for God. They are set to make you ore like Jesus every day.

You do not have to fear that God will suddenly change His commands. They will remain the same forever.

As you take time to follow the commands of God, you will begin to walk in His holiness and build His kingdom as He desires. You will know His great love for you and others more and more.

Hold on to God’s commands each day.

I pray today that you will know the love of God; that you will know God’s commands are holy; that you will know the value of God’s commands; and that you will obey God with your whole life. 

Psalm 15:3 Words Matter

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Whose tongue utters no slander, who does no wrong to a neighbor, and casts no slur on others; Psalm 15:3 

All comedy movies usually have one thing in common, though not always, but that is they focus on cutting other people down. People think it is funny to slam another person or make that person look bad.

This also occurs in the public realm of politics. When a person is running for a position, it appears that all most can talk about is how bad the other candidate is. People love to find fault in others or make a false statement about the person to cut him down. It helps them feel better about themselves.

Slandering people is something that occurs in every area of life, school, workplace, homes, and neighborhoods. It can be seen everywhere.

David asked the question of who can live on God’s holy mountain and then proceeds to answer it in this psalm. One of the things a person must not do is slander or cast slurs onto someone else.

Every believer is to love every one and build every one up. They are never to cut someone down. Slander cuts and kills people. It destroys people and their lives, whether true or false. Usually slander is not true.

Sadly this type of action can be seen inside the church. People slam other believers, condemning them quickly and talking bad about them, rather than encouraging them and building them up.

Many believers are quick to point out sins in others, and overlook what they are doing right. Churches have split over slander. Ministers have been removed over false slander and slurs being cast, and most of this by people in the church.

One can expect the world to slander others, they don’t know God. But those in the church are to love and build up because they know God.

Your words do matter. They have an effect upon the lives of other people, to bring life or death, to build up or tear down.

Think about the words God has given you. They work at building you up, not tearing you down. Just as God speaks words of love and life towards you, you must also speak words of love and life towards others.

Think about the words you will speak before you say them. Will they build up or tear down? Show love or hate? Your words do matter.

I pray today that you will know God’s love for all people; that your words spoken will be words God would say; that you will build people up in Jesus; and that you will always speak the truth of God in love to all people. 

Job 19:2 Crushing Words

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How long will you torment me and crush me with words? Job 19:2 

It is easy for people to find fault in another person. Faults appear to stand out in a person, no matter how big or small they are. When people see them, most people feel as though they are obligated to report them or point them out, as if the other person did not know about the faults.

Faults are even more quickly pointed out when a person is going through a difficult time. People like to point out reasons why a person may be going through the hard time, rather than showing love and compassion and building the person up.

After hearing his friends talking a bit about his situation, Job gets frustrated with them and asks why they are crushing him with just words. All he was hearing was judgements and destruction.

These types of words and actions are also very common in the church. Judgmental words, though spoken with a mind to be helpful, are often spoken in a way that crushes or hurts a person.

Many people do not take the time to really look at the full situation or fully understand what is going on. People are very quick to judge in a harsh way, rather than show compassion and strive to build a person up with love.

Actions and words like Job’s friends are what has caused many to walk away from the church and even from God. They don’t want to be a part of something that is crushing and tormenting.

Looking at the life of Jesus, He never walked around crushing people with His words. The only people He crushed with words were the head leaders that were supposed to know better. The average person was just a person in learning how to live the right life for God. Jesus had love and compassion for the people.

Think about the words you speak to other people who are going through a tough time. Work to ensure that those words are not crushing, destructive words, but words that build up in love and compassion.

Before you speak, take time to think about what you should say. Think about how Jesus would speak to that person. And always remember that you are not God and do not always know what exactly is going on behind the scenes in a person’s life. They may be being proved by God through the situation, not being punished.

I pray today that you will know God’s love in your life; that you will speak God’s word to others; that you will have God’s love and compassion for others; and that you will build others up with God’s word and not crush them.