The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 1 Corinthians 7:4
Marriage is something that God had started in the beginning of creation. However, it is something that mankind has chosen to abuse. The definition of what marriage is has changed over the years again and again. How people go into marriage is dependent upon how they see what marriage is.
In recent years, there has been a change when a couple gets married in their marriage contracts. They now put in certain stipulations that if certain things are not met, the marriage is annulled.
Each spouse now has the view that they are their own person in every way, even inside of marriage. Each has their own bank accounts, cars, jobs, friends, bills, and the list goes on. They are living in the same house, but are living separate lives.
Paul talks about how the wife is to submit herself to her husband and the husband is to submit himself to his wife. It is to submit to each other.
Submitting here is giving in to the desires of the other person, putting the other person first. It is building the other one up and seeking to meet the other’s needs first. When both are seeking to do this, both will be built up and there will be unity.
Many marriages end because one or the other, or both, are seeking one’s own desires above the other. This is not a sign of love or respect, it is selfishness and separation.
God is not a God of selfishness and separation. He wants all to be in unity and love, to be generous with each other.
If you are a married person, you are no longer your own person. You are one with your spouse. Seek to build your spouse up and meet his/her desires. Show the love that God has shown and given you. Jesus did not seek His own good when He died upon the cross, but He was seeking your good, what was good for you. Do the same for your spouse.
As you put God at the center of your marriage, you will put your spouse at the front of your marriage. Then your marriage will be stronger.
I pray today that you will know the love God has for others; that God will be at the center of your marriage; that you will put your spouse above your self; and that your marriage will be built upon God’s love and word.