A lying tongue hates those it hurts, and a flattering mouth works ruin. Proverbs 26:28
Words can do a lot. They can be used to build up or they can be used to destroy. The two major common ways that speaking can hurt and destroy people is with telling lies and flattering. Both of these go hand in hand and relatively the same.
There are many people who think that a “little white” lie is not really hurting anyone and does no real harm. Yet a lie is a lie. It is deceiving someone else into thinking something that is not true. It breaks the trust of those that hear it. Thus to speak a lie to someone is to hate them.
Flattering is telling lies to make a person feel better about himself. It often causes a person to think that they are better than what they really are. When this occurs, there is often a downfall later. The person goes about thinking greater of himself until someone else brings out the truth and crushes him.
In Proverbs it points out that a lying tongue hates others and flattering a person brings about destruction and ruin.
God is a God of love and His people are to be the same. Telling lies about or to someone or flattering someone is not showing that love. It is showing hatred.
These types of actions can often be found in the church among believers. Many believers will tell lies that they do not struggle with some type of sin, trying to look better. Others will also flatter someone to put them on a pedestal making them appear much greater than they are, rather than speaking full truth.
Jesus only spoke truth and then it was always done in love. Every believer is to speak in the same way. Jesus built people up with truth, not flattering lies.
Every day you will have opportunities to speak to others. You will have a choice as to whether to speak the truth or tell a lie. You will have the opportunity to build a person up in love or with flattering lies.
Allow God to guide your words to build them up in the true love of Jesus. There will be times of correction and there will be times of admonishment. However all of it is to be done in His love.
Are your words showing love or hate? Are your words building up or destroying others?
I pray today that God will give you the words to speak; that you will only speak as Jesus spoke; that God will fill you with His love for others; and that you will build others up in Jesus and not tear them down.