How long will you torment me and crush me with words? Job 19:2
It is easy for people to find fault in another person. Faults appear to stand out in a person, no matter how big or small they are. When people see them, most people feel as though they are obligated to report them or point them out, as if the other person did not know about the faults.
Faults are even more quickly pointed out when a person is going through a difficult time. People like to point out reasons why a person may be going through the hard time, rather than showing love and compassion and building the person up.
After hearing his friends talking a bit about his situation, Job gets frustrated with them and asks why they are crushing him with just words. All he was hearing was judgements and destruction.
These types of words and actions are also very common in the church. Judgmental words, though spoken with a mind to be helpful, are often spoken in a way that crushes or hurts a person.
Many people do not take the time to really look at the full situation or fully understand what is going on. People are very quick to judge in a harsh way, rather than show compassion and strive to build a person up with love.
Actions and words like Job’s friends are what has caused many to walk away from the church and even from God. They don’t want to be a part of something that is crushing and tormenting.
Looking at the life of Jesus, He never walked around crushing people with His words. The only people He crushed with words were the head leaders that were supposed to know better. The average person was just a person in learning how to live the right life for God. Jesus had love and compassion for the people.
Think about the words you speak to other people who are going through a tough time. Work to ensure that those words are not crushing, destructive words, but words that build up in love and compassion.
Before you speak, take time to think about what you should say. Think about how Jesus would speak to that person. And always remember that you are not God and do not always know what exactly is going on behind the scenes in a person’s life. They may be being proved by God through the situation, not being punished.
I pray today that you will know God’s love in your life; that you will speak God’s word to others; that you will have God’s love and compassion for others; and that you will build others up with God’s word and not crush them.