Marriage Vows: I Do

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One of the things that people look forward to in going to a wedding ceremony is waiting for the marriage vows to be said. When the vows are said, it completes the marriage ceremony and the couple are then married. It becomes official.

Although there is nothing in the bible about having to say a marriage vow when one gets married, there is nothing against the bible in saying a vow. All a vow is, is making a promise. It is promising that you will do or not do something. It is committing oneself to something or someone.

In a wedding ceremony the common traditional marriage vow goes somewhat like this:

“I, ___, take thee, ___, to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith [or] pledge myself to you.”

Some have changed the wording some, but this is the basic standard of a traditional wedding vow or promise.

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When you look at this vow, you will see that it covers everything possible in a marriage–better/worse, richer/poorer, sickness/health. Every marriage will go through every one of these at some point or another. It is human nature to do better or worse, be richer or poorer, and have times of sickness or good health.

Every person who goes into a marriage must realize that these things will occur. There will be times of great joy and happiness, when everything is going perfectly. There will also be times of struggle and pain. Neither one should stop a marriage.

All of these things are done because of love. The next part of the vow is to love and cherish the spouse.

Love comes from God. Remember God is love. God loves you with a perfect, undying love. That love is a love that loves you no matter what, better/worse, richer/poorer, sickness/health. There will be times of better, worse, richer, poorer, sickness and health as you walk this life on this earth. God’s love for you remains the same. He keeps His promise to love you for all eternity.

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The same love God has for you is to be brought into a marriage. There will be times that will be better and there will be times that will be worse. There will be times that will be richer and times that will be poorer. There will be health as well as sickness. None of these things should change a marriage and the vows to each other.

As you are going through life married and begin to face some tough times, the worse times, look back to your vow at the beginning. Think about why you were willing to say ‘I do’ to those vows. Hold on to that reason. Keep loving and cherishing your spouse, regardless of what your spouse says or does.

It will not always be easy, but then life is not easy either. Walking with God is not always easy. There are always tough choices to make. There are always difficult times to walk through when walking with God. It is a walk of faith.

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Your marriage is a walk of faith with God. You are trusting that your spouse will be faithful and continue to love you, just as God has faith that you will be faithful and love Him as He loves you.

When you said ‘I do’ you made a promise. Now work at keeping that promise and don’t give up.

Thank you for continuing with me on this journey at looking at marriage. Next week I will look at the husband and his responsibility in a marriage. Have a blessed marriage in our Lord Jesus Christ! See you next week as we continue this journey.

Deuteronomy 4:9 Don’t Forget

Forget me not flower

Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them fade from your heart as long as you live. Teacher them to your children and to their children after them. Deuteronomy 4:9

Remembering things is something that is needed to be done. It helps remind a person where he has come from and things he should or should not do. Looking back on one’s life will help one see the choices that were made, some that were disastrous and others that were successful.

Over time, there has been groups of people who strive to deny things that occurred in the past. They try to deny or ignore things that were negative in their lives. There are people who try to deny the holocaust or the slavery done in America. They try to rewrite the history books to deny these things.

Since Jesus walked on the earth, there are many who try to deny Jesus. Since the beginning of mankind, there are people who work hard to deny the existence of God.

God told the Israelites to be careful to remember everything that they had seen. Not only were they to remember them, but they were to pass the stories on to their children and grandchildren.

Every believer will have stories to tell of God’s provision or hand in their lives. Many will begin to forget about what God had done, when things get tough in life. Those who do remember, will find strength and hope in God, because they remember how God has already met a need in the past.

Forgetting the things God has done opens the door to doubt and fear. Many believers fear things happening, because they forget what God has already done and can do.

Take time to think about all the things God has done for you in your life. Take time to share that information with family and friends. Do not allow yourself to forget how God has worked in your life.

When the time comes that you are going to go through a tough time, and it will come, stop and take the time to remember how God has helped in the past. This will give you hope for your future. It will remove the fear of the situation, because you will see God is still at work in your life.

Don’t forget what God has done!

I pray today that you will remember the work of God in your life; that you will share what God has already done for you; that God will remove fear of difficult times; and that many will come to God through your testimony of His work in your life.