1 Corinthians 7:11 Not An Option

But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. 1 Corinthians 7:11

Divorce is the number one option of marriages that are struggling. As soon as there is some major struggle in a marriage, many people look to getting a divorce.

They want out of the marriage, feeling that there is no hope of reconciliation. Many will even right a clause into a marriage certificate to allow for divorce or nullification of the marriage under certain circumstances. People want to escape the troubles, rather than face them.

Paul gave his own opinion on divorce. It was that if a woman separates from her husband, she should not get remarried. And the man must never divorce her.

Divorce has become so common and mainstream, that there is very little to no difference between the world and the church. Marriages face some difficulty and the only way that they see as a way out of it is by divorce. They want to give up, move away and try again.

God had never planned it that way. His plan was marriage was for life, no matter what happens in it. He hates divorce. Throughout the bible, the relationship with God is always shown as a marriage. God does not divorce the believer, though He will allow the believer to go.

When a believer goes through with a divorce, he is saying that his problem in the marriage is bigger than God. That God cannot fix his marriage. This is selfish, prideful thinking.

There is nothing that God cannot fix in one’s life, if one is willing to obey everything God says to do. To stop getting a divorce, one must love and forgive as God loves and forgives, and not allow divorce to even be an option.

You may be in a struggling marriage and are contemplating divorce. Don’t do it. Give your life, your spouse and your marriage into the hands of God.

Seek God to know how to treat and love your spouse as God treats and loves you. Be willing to love and forgive as Jesus loves and forgives you.

With God, all things are possible. Do not conform to the ways of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

Allow God to rule in your life and marriage, and do not allow divorce to be an option, regardless of how ugly it may get.

Today I pray that you will know Jesus as your Savior; that you will allow God to rule in your relationships with others; that you will trust God with your marriage; and that you will love and forgive as God does.

Isaiah 54:5 Who Are You Married To?

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For you Maker is your husband–the Lord Almighty is his name–the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth. Isaiah 54:5 

The view on what marriage is varies from person to person all over the world. Many see marriage as just something convenient for the moment. People go into marriage for selfish and temporary reasons.

Marriage is supposed to be the dedication of a man and woman to each other for the rest of their life. They are to focus on each other and no one else.

The real focus of what marriage is supposed to be is found in the dedication to each other. It is putting the other person before one’s own self. People will be dedicated to someone or something. Often they are dedicated to things.

Isaiah reminds the people that God is their husband. The people are married to God. He is to be their focus.

This concept of being married to God has never changed. The book of Revelation finishes with a prophecy of Jesus returning for His bride.

Believers are to be married to God–focused and dedicated to God and God alone. There is to be no adultery with false gods–anything other than God Himself.

Too often believers become like the world in casting aside their marriage. The call for a divorce or live in adultery. They give their hearts and lives over to someone or something other than God. They forsake their first love, their husband.

This adultery can happen when a believer allows sin and sinful habits into his life as he refuses to listen to the Holy Spirit.

The good news is that God does not call for a divorce, as men do. He keeps calling His bride to be with Him. He is in it for eternity, with an eternal love for His bride, the believer–the church.

When you chose to follow Jesus, you became a part of the bride of Christ. He is your Maker and God of all and now is your husband.

Dedicate all of your love and focus upon Him. God is the perfect husband I that He will lead and guide you perfectly in every area of your life. He will never fail you as human husbands may.

While doing this, do not allow yourself to fall into adultery and seek or lust after other husbands–stepping into sin or turning to false gods. Remain loyal to God alone, your husband.

I pray today that you will know Jesus as your Savior; that you will be dedicated to God alone; that your life will be a one of marriage dedication to God; and that you will know His love and protection for you. 

1 Corinthians 7:4 Not Your Own

 

husband and wife

The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 1 Corinthians 7:4

Marriage is something that God had started in the beginning of creation. However, it is something that mankind has chosen to abuse. The definition of what marriage is has changed over the years again and again. How people go into marriage is dependent upon how they see what marriage is.

In recent years, there has been a change when a couple gets married in their marriage contracts. They now put in certain stipulations that if certain things are not met, the marriage is annulled.

Each spouse now has the view that they are their own person in every way, even inside of marriage. Each has their own bank accounts, cars, jobs, friends, bills, and the list goes on. They are living in the same house, but are living separate lives.

Paul talks about how the wife is to submit herself to her husband and the husband is to submit himself to his wife. It is to submit to each other.

Submitting here is giving in to the desires of the other person, putting the other person first. It is building the other one up and seeking to meet the other’s needs first. When both are seeking to do this, both will be built up and there will be unity.

Many marriages end because one or the other, or both, are seeking one’s own desires above the other. This is not a sign of love or respect, it is selfishness and separation.

God is not a God of selfishness and separation. He wants all to be in unity and love, to be generous with each other.

If you are a married person, you are no longer your own person. You are one with your spouse. Seek to build your spouse up and meet his/her desires. Show the love that God has shown and given you. Jesus did not seek His own good when He died upon the cross, but He was seeking your good, what was good for you. Do the same for your spouse.

As you put God at the center of your marriage, you will put your spouse at the front of your marriage. Then your marriage will be stronger.

I pray today that you will know the love God has for others; that God will be at the center of your marriage; that you will put your spouse above your self; and that your marriage will be built upon God’s love and word.

Proverbs 31:10-27 The Right Wife

The passage that I have chosen today is too long to want to copy all of it here. Please click on the link Proverbs 31:10-27 and read the passage.

There are many views on who the right wife is for a man. Each person, man, woman, mother, or father, has a different view. In this passage a description is given that is often ignored.

The wife described here is not one who is a door-mat, that just gets walked all over by her husband or her children. Nor is she one described as the boss of the household.

Often wives have a career and are focused on moving on up in that career. They are focused on how to look better in this world. It may be to look better in this world for her husband or children, but the focus is still on her. The wife described here is focused on making life better for her husband and her children.

She is willing to work with her own hands to provide the best for her family, not for herself. Many marriages are built around the concept of his and her own stuff. Each one has their own checking account, own vehicles, own food, own life and are not together. Everything done is for self, rather than for the family.

This is not about women’s liberation, but about love for family. When a woman puts her family first and meets their needs first, she will be blessed in the end. Her family will see all the hard work she does and bless her. Her husband can trust her to make all the right choices in this life and for the family.

If you are a wife and are reading this today, what is your focus in your family? The first level of focus must be on God, the second is on your husband, and third is on your children. The last area of focus is to be on yourself.

God will provide for your needs as you pour out yourself into the needs of your family.

The method of meeting your family needs will be different for each wife. Seek God to know how you can best do that and be the wife that is blessed.

I pray today that God will give you the strength to work for your family; that God will guide you in what to do for your family; and that your family will see a treasure in you.