Proverbs 15:1 Speaking Softly

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A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1 

The fastest reaction that people have to what someone else says or does is with their words. People are quick to answer someone’s words or actions.

When the words or actions are harmful and offensive, the reaction is often spoken with harsh, condemning words. Retaliation is quick and swift in the attempt to strike back and make the person pay. Anger rises up and gets the best of a person.

Responding in this way, only causes the first person to respond with even more harsh and condemning words. This is what causes many fight and keeps many battles moving forward, rather than being solved.

Solomon realizes that a soft answer will keep anger at bay and calm a person down. Harsh words will only get a person more angry.

Harsh words are easy to speak and often are the first things that come out of a person. Believers are often quick to use harsh words under the disguise of trying to help the person see the error of their ways. Christians are often quick to condemn the sin in another person with harsh words, rather than showing true love.

The only time Jesus used harsh words was with the religious leaders who should have known better. With those who were lost in sin and did not know God in any way, He spoke with gentle words of love and kindness.

When words of condemnation and hate are spoken to unbelievers or even to other believers, it will raise up their anger. It will make a wrong even more wrong, causing greater battles and injury.

There is nothing harsh in the words of love, mercy and grace. Those are words that reach out to touch a person for God, revealing God’s true character.

As you go along in life there will be times when you will be hurt by someone or see someone steeped in sin. How you respond to that person will reveal the character of God. Your words can either draw the person towards God or push them away.

Harsh, condemning words will push them away and cause their anger to rise up against you and God. Soft and gentle, but firm words will calm them down and draw them towards Jesus.

How are your words causing others to act? Are they stirring up anger or are they drawing them towards God and diffusing the anger?

I pray today that you will know the love of God; that God will give you the words to speak; that you will speak out of the love God has for you and for others; and that your words will be the words of God to build up rather than tear down and destroy.

Psalm 45:2 What Do Your Words Say About You?

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You are the most excellent of men and your lips have been anointed with grace, since God has blessed you forever. Psalm 45:2 

A person is often known by how he speaks. Every person speaks a little differently. This is not talking about the language being spoken, but what words are they saying and how they talk to and about other people.

Some are known for gruff talk. They will speak harshly about many different things and people. Often they appear as a grumpy person.

Others will be known for speaking in pride. All that they say is things about themselves.

Some are always cutting others down, making jokes. No one can tell if they are ever serious.

Still others speak with compassion and building others up.

The writer speaks of  a person who is an excellent person. He is excellent because he speaks with grace. His words are kind and merciful to those he is speaking to or about.

It is not common to find a person who is always gracious in what he says. Too often the words spoken are cutting others down or being prideful about self. It is easy for a person to find fault in others.

Believers are often known for constantly finding fault in those who do not follow Jesus or their way of worshipping God. They often do not show the grace that God has shown them.

The person who has his heart set after God’s will speak like Jesus spoke–with grace, love and mercy.

Every person has faults of one type or another. No one is exactly the same. Since this is the case, believers must remember that and speak accordingly with grace, allowing the other person some room to grow in the Lord.

Take a moment to think about how you speak to or about other people. What are your words saying? Are they words that build up or tear down?

People are always listening to what you say. They want to know if what you are saying is matching what you say you are living. You say that you are a follow of Jesus, then that means you must be like Jesus. One of the fastest ways to know if you are following Jesus is by how you speak.

People will know you by what you say. Do they see you as a person of grace? Or do they see you as a person of judgement?

Fill your mouth with words of grace as you speak.

I pray today that you will know God’s grace towards you; that you will show God’s grace to others; that you will speak the words of God; and that you will speak with God’s grace and love.