Danger Of Past Hurt

People get hurt by other people on a regular basis. This is more true with the more friends and family that you have. If you only have a few friends or very little to no family, the chance of getting hurt drops dramatically, but you also have a lot less chance of being loved and loving someone.

In today’s society, many people are blaming their actions on someone else. They look back to a time when they were a child and got hurt by a parent, a sibling, a relative or some other friend. Usually this hurt was something that occurred over and over again, over a longer period of time.

Being hurt by someone is something that will happen. If it has not happened recently, just wait it is coming. The difference is how much that hurt really hurts.

When an enemy does something against a person, most people just accept it, because they half expected it to happen. Very few people expect to be treated nicely by someone who is an enemy. In fact, with most of the world, if they are being treated nicely, chances are they are friends and not enemies.

Treating the enemy nicely is something that God talks about and even commands.

Luke 6:27-36 New International Version (NIV)
Love for Enemies
27 “But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. 29 If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them. 30 Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. 31 Do to others as you would have them do to you.
32 “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. 33 And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. 34 And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. 35 But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. 36 Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.

However, what I want to look at is past hurts and the dangers of those hurts. As I stated above, the cases where someone gets hurt the worst is with a loved one, usually a family member. The one you love is the one that can and usually will hurt you the most. When they do something that hurts, it goes deep into the heart and soul of a person, because they lost trust and love that should have been there.

Many people grow up mad at their parents because of something that they had done wrong to them when they were a young child. Some of those things are very wrong, in both the eyes of the law and the eyes of God. Some of those things were done on purpose, with the purpose to hurt or take advantage of.

Other things were done by mistake and not knowing the best way to do things. Every person has things that they need to learn. In the process of learning those things, often there are many mistakes made. Many parents discipline in a way that was too harsh, causing pain and anger for many years to come. This is part of the learning process. Some parents learn over time how to do things better, while some never seem to learn to do it the best way.

The danger of being hurt comes in how that hurt is held on to. Thousands of family members are fighting with each other their entire lives, because they refuse to forgive each other. I have seen parents go to their death-bed refusing to forgive a child of some wrong done to them many years before. I have also seen children watch their parent die and refusing to forgive that parent of a wrong done when they were young.

Bitterness sets into the heart of a person that has been done wrong to, and he refuses to forgive and move on. Children refuse to talk to parents. Parents refuse to talk to children. Siblings refuse to talk to other siblings. All these things because of a past hurt and the bitterness that has set in.

With bitterness, there is no real joy in life. People look to things or other people to try to bring that joy. Always looking for the next thrill or person to love. All the while refusing to look to God.

Ephesians 4:31 New International Version (NIV)

31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.

God wants a person to get rid of all bitterness. Many, however, will say that they are not bitter. They say that they just cannot forgive the person and will not deal with them anymore. That is a sign of bitterness and not love.

We are told to forgive:

Ephesians 4:32 New International Version (NIV)

32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

God had forgiven you of all the wrongs you have done to Him. Jesus went to the cross to pay the price for your sins, so that you could be forgiven. Think about how many times you have hurt God with a sin, both small and large. Yet, God loved you enough to forgive, rather than holding a grudge against you and being bitter.

Hebrews 12:15-17 New International Version (NIV)

15 See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.

Do not allow the root of bitterness to grow and manifest itself in your life. Just like a little cancer cell in the body grows to the point of killing a person, so a little bitterness can grow and kill you. It can kill you and others around you. It sets a pattern in your life and the lives you touch, to where others catch that bitter root.

God does not want to see you ate up by bitterness and anger, because of a past hurt. He wants you to work at forgiving and showing His love to the person who has hurt you in the past.

If you have been hurt in the past by someone, give it to God. Ask Him to show you His love for you and His great love for the other person who hurt you.

Ask God to show you how much He has forgiven you, so that you can work at forgiving the other person. Ask God for strength to forgive and move on, getting rid of all bitterness.

The hurt and pain may always be there, but love can override those things. Relationships can be rebuilt in God. As long as you and the other person are alive it is still possible to mend that relationship. There is always a chance to forgive. God will make a way for it to happen if you allow Him to do so.

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Isaiah 25:7-8 Death Will Be Destroyed

On this mountain he will destroy the shroud that enfolds all peoples, the sheet that covers all nations; he will swallow up death forever. The Sovereign LORD will wipe away the tears from all faces; he will remove his people’s disgrace from all the earth. The LORD has spoken. Isaiah 25:7-8

At the time that Isaiah was speaking this, Israel as a whole nation did not exist. It had already been split into two smaller nations and both were now being destroyed and overcome by other nations. The destruction and captivity of the people was in the process.

Yet, as this destruction is occurring, Isaiah prophecies about the world being blessed on the very site God was in the process of destroying. Nearly a thousand years later, Jesus would walk on that very mountain and bring a blessing to the world.

One thing that is a shroud that covers every nation and every person that walks on this earth is death. Death is stronger than taxes or any government in the world. While many things and people are extremely powerful in this world, nothing has more power on mankind than death.

Everyone will die. Some scientists devote their lives to studying ways to defeat death. Death does not care if you are rich or poor, famous or unknown, or if you have done great things or not. It will get you.

Yet, when Jesus came to the earth, He came with the purpose to destroy death. Death was brought onto this earth through sin. Without sin, death has no power at all.

Along with removing the shroud of death over all people, God will remove the disgrace of the people. The disgrace is the sin each person has done. God has treated every person on this earth with perfect love, yet, each person has chosen to sin against Him, to their own shame and disgrace.

Jesus, in His great love, has paid the price for that disgrace and is willing to remove it. He removed it on the hill of Mount Calvary.

Look to Jesus for your life. The things of this world will pass away and physical death will come, but your spirit can live for eternity. Jesus is willing to remove your shame of sin and clothe you in righteousness.

Are you trusting Him today?

I pray today that you will know Jesus as your savior; that you will allow Jesus to remove all sin from your life; that you will accept the abundant, eternal life God has for you; and that you will not fear death.

Isaiah 19:22 A Strike, Then Repair

The LORD will strike Egypt with a plague; he will strike them and heal them. They will turn to the LORD, and he will respond to their pleas and heal them. Isaiah 19:22

Egypt was one of the many nations that God had planned to strike and break down. They had refused to follow Him, so He chose to strike them. During the process of being struck down, the Egyptians would turn to God and cry out to Him. God would hear their cries and stop the time of destruction and heal them. He would pour out blessings on Egypt in the end.

Punishment comes in many forms all around the world. It occurs with individuals, all the way up to entire nations. Most nations are very quick to punish someone for doing something wrong. The purpose of the punishment is to make the person pay for the wrong that they did.

Once the punishment is over, however, very few nations or people, strive to rebuild the person or nation back up again. Once a person is punished, most will leave that person there in the position, saying that is the price that is paid for doing wrong. The individual has to fight for himself to build himself back up.

God works in a different way. His purpose of punishment is to get the person to focus back on Him. Once the purpose is accomplished, God will build that person back up.

God listens to the cries of every person in this world. As that person cries out repentance and seeks forgiveness, God is ready to forgive and build that person back up correctly.

In your own life you must realize God may be allowing you to go through a touch time right now to get your focus back on Him. Turn to Him and allow Him to build you up.

Along with getting repaired yourself, work to build others up who have harmed you. There will be people who have done you wrong. As they seek forgiveness, give it to them. And then work to build them back up.

Those who have made bad choices in their life give you an opportunity to love and build up in Jesus. Don’t force the person to stay down. Show God’s love and mercy to them and lift them up from the mud. Allow God to use you to rebuild their lives for Him.

I pray today that you will see God’s hand to rebuild lives; that you will learn from God’s corrections in your life; that God will use you to build others up; and that you will cry out to God for your own life and the lives of others.

Song Of Solomon 1:15 You Are Beautiful

How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves. Song Of Solomon 1:15

Love scenes are portrayed in many books and movies in many different ways. The description of love between two people can be described in many ways, depending on the culture of the people involved.

One of the things that is common for a man to say about a woman he loves is that she is beautiful. A young man in love with a woman cannot stop telling her how beautiful she is. When first falling in love with someone, a person does not see any faults in the person. All they see is love and beauty.

It is only when a person gets closer to another person, do they often see faults and problems in the person. Many people will at that point walk away, realizing the person is not as good as they thought. People get married quickly, then a few short years later get divorced because one spouse was not as beautiful as was originally thought.

Solomon tells a story of the love between a man and a woman. It is a deeply felt love and the process of it growing more and more.

This love can be seen between God and every person. God sees you as a beautiful person. Not necessarily a beautiful person right now, but who you are and can be in Jesus. Before you are forgiven of your sins, you are seen as a person dressed in filthy rags that is dirty. There is little beauty to be seen at that point.

Once you come to Jesus, however, and are forgiven of your sins, you are clothed with His beauty and righteousness. God’s love for you has always been there. If He did not love you, then why did He send His only son to die on the cross for you?

People often look at themselves as only filthy dirt and unworthy of any love. God sees you as His bride, that is lovely and beautiful.

Allow yourself to be cleaned up by the forgiveness that Jesus provides. Accept the love God has for you. He is looking at you and saying that you are beautiful. Do you believe that in your own life today?

I pray today that you will know God’s love for you; that you will know the forgiveness Jesus provides you; that you will know how beautiful God is; and that you will love God as He loves you.

Proverbs 28:13 Hiding Sin

Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy. Proverbs 28:13

It is easy for people to believe that something that is not seen cannot harm them or have an effect on them. They often try to keep things hidden from other people. Things that are hidden are things that they know are wrong in reality.

It is seldom physical things that are kept hidden, but things that are done. Personal sins that people do and do not want anyone else to know about. Many sins are done in the dark or at night. Think about when bars and nightclubs are open, and what the lighting is like in those places. People do not want their sins seen, yet the danger is still there.

In the body, a cancer cell is extremely small and cannot be seen by the naked eye. Yet, let alone to grow, it can destroy the entire body and cause death. In the same way, a sin, no mater how little, can grow and destroy the body and cause death.

Solomon says that the person who conceals or hides his sin will not prosper. There are two ways to look at what it means to prosper. One is financially, the other is spiritually.

When you hide a sin in your life, you may or may not prosper financially. There are many people in this world who live in open sin that are financially very prosperous.

However, as you hide a sin in your life, you will not prosper spiritually. You are sinning against God and He sees it.

The first thing that you must do is confess the sin. This is to openly admit that you are sinning and what that sin is. At a minimum, you must confess this to God, then confess to others who may be hurt by it.

Then comes the important part–to renounce the sin. You must turn away from that sin and no longer do it. If you continue to do that sin, you have not done anything different.

Once you renounce it, God will forgive you of that sin. God is rich in love and mercy and wants to forgive you of all sin. Do not try to hide it from Him, confess, renounce and find mercy today.

I pray today that God will reveal any hidden sin in your life; that you will confess all sin to God; that God will strengthen you to turn from all sin; and that you will know God’s love and mercy in your life.

Psalm 130:3-4 Destroyed Files

If you, LORD, kept a record of sins, Lord, who could stand? But with you there is forgiveness, so that we can, with reverence, serve you. Psalm 130:3-4

All over the world, hundreds of thousands of records are kept on file to remember many things. Some of these files are pictures to remember people and good things that have occurred in the past. Many are files of things done, such as paying taxes, to be able to later prove what was done.

Lawyers are constantly going through files looking for information. Some are searching for proof against a person, while others are searching for proof for the person’s benefit. These records can help or hurt a person.

One set of files that many people keep on record is those of sins that they have done. The devil, like the attorney, is searching through those files trying to prove they have done something wrong. He likes to remind the person of past faults. When looked at, that person does not have a chance to stand before God and serve Him. He is full of sin.

When Jesus died on the cross, He took every one of those files and nailed them to the cross. They were cast out as far as the east is from the west, so that they were no longer remembered.

At the point that you have believed that Jesus had done this for you, your files were destroyed. Jesus has chosen to forgive you of all of your sins. Those files no longer exist. Regardless of what the devil or this world may say, you are now clean before God.

When that file of sins in your life was full, you were not allowed to go before God. God cannot be in the presence of sin.  However, because of what Jesus has done for you, you now have the ability to go before God and serve Him.

Each day look to the forgiveness Jesus has given you. Rejoice in what He has done for you. Then seek ways to serve God with all of your heart, soul, mind and strength. God is for you, not against you.

I pray today that you will know the forgiveness Jesus provides; that you will know that Jesus has removed all sin in your life; that you will use your life to serve God; and that you will honor God with your life.

Little Leaks Can Become Big Problems

About a month ago I had to do a job on my house that was no fun. I had to re-shingle my roof. And when I say I had to do it, it means that I was the one who physically re-shingled the roof. I did not pay someone else to do it for me, though I wish I could have done that.

Inside the house we had several locations that were leaking some in the ceiling. One spot was so bad that if it rained very much at all, there was a steady stream of water dropping down. This had been occurring for nearly a year. Some of the ‘small’ leaks had been occurring for over a year, and for the most part were just ignored.

My wife and I talked with several companies that does roofing and each cost way more than we could even think about paying any time soon. The cost of doing it myself was about one-fourth of the cost of the lowest charging company. Definitely worth doing it myself.

I was a little nervous about doing the job myself. The roof has several sun lights, bathroom vents, a heater vent, fireplace vent, and attic vents. That is a lot of things to work around, even though the roof is not steep at all and easy to work on.

Along with that, I have done re-shingling only two or three times in the past and those times were under the supervision of someone who was experienced, and the most recent time was about 15 years ago.

After praying a lot about it, I felt that I needed to do it myself and trust God to guide my hands in the job. Looking at the job, it originally looked like a two-day job. In the end it took two days of sunup to sundown work, plus several six to eight-hour days of work to complete the job.

I was blessed one day with about fifteen college students being there to help out. Each day I had several of my own boys and one of my girls helping out. I also had a few days of some of their friends helping out.

As we began to pull up the shingles, which should not have been difficult, we started to have problems. The shingles were stapled down, so much harder to pull up, and then we had to go through and pull all of the staples up. A very slow painful process.

Underneath of the shingles that were pulled up, we started to have to remove may different pieces of the decking that were rotted out, several of which a worker stepped on and it broke.

With a lot of back-breaking work, the job was finished. The roof is now re-shingled and is in good repair. There are no more leaks, and we have had some very severe rains to prove that.

Now why do I tell you all of this story? What is the purpose of this posting?

Glad you asked!

Looking back over time that we have lived in this house, we have seen signs of leaks for several years. There were little wet spots in several locations whenever it rained extremely hard. Since it did not leak every time it rained, or at least did not appear to leak, the leak was ignored. I did take note of it, and knew it would be a problem some day, but did not do anything about it, just left it.

One thing to note was just because I did not see the sign of leaks when it was a light rain, did not mean it was not leaking. It was just that the attic area was not wet enough to let it seep through to the ceiling and be shown. The attic area was still getting wet and causing damage.

The damage being done was slow, but steady. Little by little the decking was being rotted away until it would fall apart and be worthless.

How does this apply to life?

Again, glad you asked!

If I would have taken time to find the leak on the roof and make the minor repairs, the major repairing of the entire roof may not have been needed. It was in ignoring the small problems that the major problem came up.

In life, there can be small problems that creep into our lives. Little things that come up and begin to create damage in our lives. Paul tells us to not give the devil a foothold. Although this is talking about holding onto anger, it can be in many other areas in our lives.

Allowing yourself to have a little taste of sinful pleasure can lead to a greater following of that sin. Each time you tell a lie, it becomes easier to tell another one. Each time you look at something you should not look at it, it becomes easier to look at it again. Each time you say something you should not, it becomes easier to say it again.

All of these things may not look that bad in the moment of here and now, but they will cause problems later in life. Letting little sins in your life, will make room for larger, more open sinning. In the end it will pull you away from God further and further. There can come a point when you will no longer hear from God. When that happens, you begin to no longer live for God. The ‘little’ problem has become a major problem. As in the case of my roof, the small leak eventually caused major damage.

Starting today, be willing to throw off the sin that can entangle you. Embrace Jesus and His ways of living. If there is any ‘small’ leak in your life of sin, get it taken care of immediately. Do not allow it to build up in your life and cause major destruction and destroy you.

Jesus is here today to forgive you of your sins. The Holy Spirit is here today to guide you and give you strength to turn away from all sin. They will make the needed minor repairs now if you let them.