How long will you torment me and crush me with words? Job 19:2
It is easy for people to find fault in another person. Faults appear to stand out in a person, no matter how big or small they are. When people see them, most people feel as though they are obligated to report them or point them out, as if the other person did not know about the faults.
Faults are even more quickly pointed out when a person is going through a difficult time. People like to point out reasons why a person may be going through the hard time, rather than showing love and compassion and building the person up.
After hearing his friends talking a bit about his situation, Job gets frustrated with them and asks why they are crushing him with just words. All he was hearing was judgements and destruction.
These types of words and actions are also very common in the church. Judgmental words, though spoken with a mind to be helpful, are often spoken in a way that crushes or hurts a person.
Many people do not take the time to really look at the full situation or fully understand what is going on. People are very quick to judge in a harsh way, rather than show compassion and strive to build a person up with love.
Actions and words like Job’s friends are what has caused many to walk away from the church and even from God. They don’t want to be a part of something that is crushing and tormenting.
Looking at the life of Jesus, He never walked around crushing people with His words. The only people He crushed with words were the head leaders that were supposed to know better. The average person was just a person in learning how to live the right life for God. Jesus had love and compassion for the people.
Think about the words you speak to other people who are going through a tough time. Work to ensure that those words are not crushing, destructive words, but words that build up in love and compassion.
Before you speak, take time to think about what you should say. Think about how Jesus would speak to that person. And always remember that you are not God and do not always know what exactly is going on behind the scenes in a person’s life. They may be being proved by God through the situation, not being punished.
I pray today that you will know God’s love in your life; that you will speak God’s word to others; that you will have God’s love and compassion for others; and that you will build others up with God’s word and not crush them.
I have heard many things like these; you are miserable comforters, all of you! Job 16:2
As a person is going through an extremely tough time, many people will just avoid that person. They avoid him because they don’t know what to say or do, or because they don’t want that bad situation to come upon them.
Others will be quick to show up at his side. The purpose of showing up, however, is to give some advice. People are very quick to give advice in how to deal with something. Often this advice is coming from people who have never been in the situation themselves. It is what they think they would do if they were in that position.
Very few people show up, just to be a support, without giving a ton of advice. They are there to show compassion and love.
As Job was going through extreme difficulties and his world was falling a part, some of his friends came by to be with him. Instead of being silent and supporting him, they wanted to give him some advice or counsel. Their counsel was not supportive or encouraging. It was degrading and condemning.
In the church there are many believers who are just like Job’s friends. They intend to speak well, but in the end are condemning and not supportive. There is no love, mercy or grace of God in their words.
People often thin that they know and understand fully what is going on in the life of someone else. On the outside it can appear as one thing, but on the inside it can be totally different. Just because someone is going through a tough time does not automatically mean there was unrepentant sin involved or that God is against him. Knowing the end of the story, one knows that Job was innocent in this case.
You will have times when you will have a friend going through a tough time. Things will be falling a part for him. You need to be there for him to support him and lift him up.
However, be careful with your words. Be sure that your words are the words of God, words that show love, grace, mercy, and compassion. Do not be so quick to condemn or find fault. It is the devil that condemns, not Jesus. Jesus came to heal and save, not condemn.
What type of comforter will you be for a friend going through a tough time? Loving? Or condemning?
I pray today that you will know God’s love; that you will share God’s love with others; that you will speak the true words of God at all times; and that you will be a comfort to those in need as God comforts you.
Will you speak wickedly on God’s behalf? Will you speak deceitfully for him? Job 13:7
Speaking for another person is a common practice among people all over the world. Someone says something and everyone talks about it and reinterprets what the person is saying to meet their own agenda or thoughts.
This can be see in the news and social media all the time. A famous person makes a statement about something meaning one thing, and half the online media turns it around to say something different and shreds the person up.
It is also seen in the level of just a family. A parent says something, and one sibling takes and runs with it against another sibling, making it something it was never supposed to be.
As Job was going through an extremely tough time, losing everything, he had some ‘friends’ come by to give some counsel. Their focus was that Job must have sinned some great sin to cause God to strike him so. They were speaking lies on behalf of God, sin had nothing to do with what was occurring in his life.
These types of words and more are very common among believers in a church. People are very quick to judge someone on God’s behalf, often not knowing the full story. In reality, no one can fully understand what God is doing and why He does it. His ways and thoughts are way above any person’s ways and thoughts.
People are also very quick to judge those outside the church in ways that are not always truth. In doing this, they are not showing any compassion or love, both of which God is known for. Jesus did not just go around constantly condemning, but showed love and compassion for the people. There is a time for judgement, but it is not all the time.
Think about the things that you say and do in God’s name as a believer. Things that you state that God has said. Are you taking everything within context or are you twisting God’s words to meet a personal agenda?
Study God’s word from beginning to end. Learn what God’s heart is like and how He acts and reacts to things. As you fill your heart with His word and His love, you will begin to speak the right words each and every time. You will not speak lies or deceit when giving counsel to another person.
I pray today that you will know God’s word; that you will know God’s love and compassion; that you will speak God’s word correctly; and that you will not say or do anything God has not directed you to do or say.
The king was shaken. He went up to the room over the gateway and wept. As he went, he said: “O my son Absalom! My son, my son Absalom! If only I had died instead of you–O Absalom, my son, my son!” 2 Samuel 18:33
When an enemy dies, most people will rejoice. They want to see the enemy defeated and pay for what he has done wrong.
Very few people like their enemies and even fewer love their enemies. When the enemy has a major set-back in life or is destroyed, the majority of people are happy about it. The more damage that the enemy had done, the greater the people want the person to pay for it in death or pain and suffering.
David’s son, Absalom, had chosen to fight against David to gain the throne as king of Israel. David and his men had to flee, because Absalom had grown so powerful against David. Despite the problems Absalom had been giving David, he did not want any harm to come to him.
In the process of the battle, Absalom gets killed. When David hears about this, he weeps out loud. He even states that he wishes he would have died instead. David was showing great love for his enemy.
Both those in the world and those in the church will often rejoice at the death of an enemy. They have very little compassion for the enemy. The greater the crimes, the less the compassion.
Jesus was not like that. He wept over the loss of anyone, even the enemy. His love over came the anger against the enemy.
Believers should be just like David and Jesus in showing compassion even for the enemy. At a minimum, it could be seen that a dead enemy, is a person who is lost for eternity from God. They no longer have a chance to serve God and live for eternity.
Allow yourself to be filled with God’s great love, to the point that when an enemy dies or is destroyed, your heart breaks out of love and compassion for the person. You can rejoice at the destruction of spiritual forces, but people are not spiritual forces. People are lost children of God whom God loves and Jesus died on the cross for.
As a believer you are not to be against a person, but against the spirit behind the person. Show your love and compassion to everyone, including your enemies.
I pray today that you will know God’s love and compassion; that you will show God’s love and compassion to others; that you will pray to God for those who are your enemies; and that the world will see God’s love and compassion through you.