Ecclesiastes 7:9 Offended Quickly

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Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools. Ecclesiastes 7:9 

Being offended by something is common among many people. They like their way of doing things and way of thinking. When someone else does or thinks differently, they are offended that someone could be that way.

Words are often spoken that are truth, but contain some ugly fact about someone or some event in them. People desiring to forget the past, will often quickly take offense to what is said, forgetting the real truth.

Once a person becomes provoked or offended, they will often quickly say or do something that is wrong in retaliation. This is where many fights and battles begin, is in retaliation to an offense.

In this passage today, one is told not to be quickly provoked. The anger that arises in provocation is something that only fools possess.

Sadly many believers are very quickly provoked to anger. They will very quickly take offense with the way a non-believer lives or wants things to be. Instead of showing love and care, they strike back in anger with words and sometimes actions.

This not only happens outside the church, but often occurs within the church. People take offense with the pastor or other church members. They do not like the way something is said and get angry. Then they talk about the offense under the pretense of care or concern, but rather as gossip and causing division among the believers.

Every believer is supposed to be filled with God’s Holy Spirit. One of the results of being filled with His Holy Spirit is the fruit of peace. This believer will be at peace and remain calm when someone tries to provoke or offend him.

Jesus had every reason to be provoked, but He remained in control and did not retaliate in anger.

Allow yourself to be guided by God’s Holy Spirit and filled with the peace Jesus gives you. There will be days when someone will do or say something to provoke you to anger. Sometimes this will be on purpose, other times it is just who they are.

Do not allow yourself to be quickly angered, becoming a fool and making a bad choice in word or action. Allow God to control your emotions in the situation and choose to walk the path of love and compassion.

Allow God’s peace to reign in your heart and mind.

I pray today that you will know God’s peace in your heart; that God will give you strength to overlook an offense; that God will help you to chose love over retaliation; and that your choices will reveal God’s character of love. 

1 Corinthians 13:5 Loving Others

 

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It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 1 Corinthians 13:5

Love is something that has been talked about for many centuries. Thousands of books and movies are written on stories about love. However, the majority of the stories are about a physical love and do not represent God’s true, unconditional love.

This chapter is known as the great chapter of the Bible on what love is. In this verse Paul points out some things that love does not do or is not. The four things that he lists are: does not dishonor, is not self-seeking, is not easily angered, and keeps no record of wrongs. These four things are centered around selfishness.

Many people in the world are very quick to dishonor someone who they do not like. This occurs in private and in public. It can be found easily in movies, books, news articles, music and many other places.

The world is also very easily angered about things that do not go their way. Every day there are articles in the news about riots, protests and fighting going on. One person or group is angry with another. People get angry over little things.

And then, people keep a record of things done wrong. Memories of faults go back a hundred years, with no forgiveness. Families split because of a long list of wrongs that were done.

All of these things are centered on self-seeking selfishness.

Love does not do any of these things. God is love and He is not easily angered, does not dishonor anyone, and does not keep a record of wrongs once a person repents.

Love is looking out for the other person and putting that person first. Instead of cutting others down, love will build others up. However, the only way for a person to really live this way, is to know true love–Jesus.

As a believer, you must look at your actions, words and thoughts with others. How are you treating other people?

The way to love others is the way God loves you. Jesus had you in mind when He went to the cross and died on it. It was not about Himself, but about you.

When people look at your life, are they seeing the ways of this world–dishonor, anger and selfishness?

Or are they seeing true love, God’s love?

I pray today that you will know the love God has for you; that you will allow God’s love to flow through you; that you will truly love all other people; and that others will know God’s love through you.

1 Corinthians 13:5 Signs Of True Love

 

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It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 1 Corinthians 13:5

The entire chapter of 1 Corinthians 13 is all about love. It describes love in various ways and what love does and does not do.

There are many books out there that talk about love. Love is a common subject of many stories, in books, tv shows, and movies. Yet, most of the time the love talked about is physical love. It is a selfish love, seeking self pleasure.

Although many in the world will quickly say that they love others, their actions do not match their words. People are very quick to dishonor others, both friends and enemies. Very few people are not seeking something for themselves in every relationship. People keep long lists for many years of everything done wrong to them, causing them to also be easily angered about a situation or a person.

These types of actions also occur within the church very often. Someone gets offended about a word or action and holds it against the person for many years to come. Some will fight against others in order to get their own way. Gossip will be spread about anger against a pastor or some other person in the church.

God never works or has ever worked with a self-seeking love. His love is a true love for others. He loves first and foremost, without requirements on a person.

Believers are to be like Jesus in their love for others. They are to never dishonor another person, but to lift them up and encourage one to live for God. There is to never be looking out for self alone, but to build others up and put them first as Jesus did going to the cross. Forgiveness should  be high on activities done, because Jesus has forgiven each one.

Take a look at your life and see how you love others. It is easy to love those who love you, but how are you loving those who do not love you? Work to make sure your definition of love is not like that of the world. Your love should mirror what Jesus’ love is for you.

The signs of true love are that it will not dishonor anyone for any reason. It will not be self-seeking or easily angered. And it will not remember past wrongs.

I pray today that you will know the love God has for you; that your love will be like that of Jesus; that your life will be one of God’s love to this world; and that you will always show God’s love to this world.